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April 27, 2009Food for Thought
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Who are you trying to please? For many in Christian leadership, the things we want to do, must do, or feel called to do get crowded out by the things we feel we should do. There are always more should-do's being shouted in our direction. The process of adding should-do's to your workweek, however, means you end up continually busy, with an emotional tank near empty. Why do we allow others to "should" all over us? For many, it's because our sense of worth is too fragile to handle disappointing others. We find solace in knowing others approve but guilt when we don't meet others' expectations. If the following statements sound like you, it's an indication your busyness may come from a fragile sense of worth.
-"I lie awake at night sometimes, worrying about someone I couldn't visit or perfecting my sermon."
-As the church grows, I get overwhelmed with everything everyone needs me to do."
-"I'm so busy doing everything that's expected of me, I forget sometimes what God called me to do."
What are some constructive steps or biblical truths that could free you from these attitudes?
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Jesus said, that "whosoever will be great among you let him be your minister."
Christians, as a whole, strive or unintentionally find themselves serving in one capacity or another. But I think we need to focus on priorities first. It depends upon the person. Some are married, some are single, some work outside of the home, some are stay-at-home mothers. It all depends upon our calling that determines our priorities. For me - I homeschool - as long as my children are taught during the day, according to our state's education laws, then I feel free in the evening to do other things.
I basically do not try to please others because if I did, I would not be the servant of God.
Posted By: Lucille G | April 27, 2009 6:23 PM